women-so they kinda get a “pass” in the sexually indiscriminate/promiscuous department. Scientifically speaking, men’s minds are more preoccupied with sex than a woman’s mind will ever be, because of their pleasure center (the hypothalamus) being twice the size of a woman’s is (when they are in a committed relationship) their desires, thoughts, and actions regarding those thoughts is something that’s only tamed by fear of being ostracized, fear of being shamed, fear of bringing shame to their family and friends.
When they are single, they tend to be promiscuous (like that of animals) however, the only difference is that they take their dirty deeds to private quarters and animals do not.
The key sentence in what I just explained is this (and I will highlight and repeat it): “Scientifically speaking, men’s minds are more preoccupied with sex than a woman’s mind will ever be, because of their pleasure center (the hypothalamus) being twice the size of a woman’s is. When they are in a committed relationship, their desires, thoughts, and actions regarding those thoughts are something only tamed by fear of being ostracized, fear of being shamed, fear of bringing shame to their family and friends.”
In short, when a man is in a committed relationship (whether married, or live-in boyfriend), his mind still can’t help desiring, lusting [and sometimes] acting on whatever those desires may be. And just because he is your husband or man, that doesn’t mean those desires and thoughts are going to always be centered around: You. This world and life are way too big with way too many other people and other things. So since he does not want to be ostracized, shamed, or bring shame to his family and friends, if he ACTS on it by stepping out on the relationship-he’s going to do it in secret, or even if he doesn’t [step out]-the DESIRES and THOUGHTS simply do not go away.
(He’s gotta put ‘em somewhere…time is ticking Ms. Team 2)…
With all that being said, with as many beautiful women as there are in this world: on television, in grocery store lines standing in front of them, in the pages of magazines, at their work, at the mall riding down the escalator, on night club poles, and everywhere-a man’s pleasure center will be on and activated all night and day until the moment he sleeps at night. As beautiful and wonderful as you may be, and despite the fact that he may adore you, admire you, love, you, love having sex with you, or even looks forward to having sex with you-the fact still remains:
- Yes, he is going to get tired of you
and
- Yes, he is going to get tired of fcking you
The most realistic as you can be in being preparation for accepting this chapter’s suggestion (that I will put money the fact that it will make your relationship last happily ever after) is to:
VARIETY
That’s the key word of the goings on.
In their minds, men have a variety of sex with a variety of different women, in a variety of different places, in a variety of different sexual positions, and do and say a variety of different things with a wide variety of them all.
You are just one woman. And no matter how hot the sex is between you two-you cannot meet the “variety” in his mind’s desire and plethora of scenarios-they vary from woman to woman.
In a relationship with one woman, that one man (with all this “variety”) has no one with which he can share all this “variety” he has bubbling up and stiffening inside of him except for his other male friends (whom he cannot have sex with). So the male friends get all the “variety” of goodies about the many women he lust, desires, and considers.
While sitting on the couch and watching television, your man has had plenty of days where he replayed conversations with his buddies about this hot girl at work who’s flirting and throwing herself at him. And although he hasn’t had sex with her…(yet), if he does not get that outlet and release; he will-he just may. Until then (and in an effort to not step out on the relationship) he will continue to talk about it to his friend(s), because he just can’t say these words (in any version or variation) to you:“Baby, this chick at work keeps rubbing up on me at the vending machine, she comes on to me every day. Her a$$ turns me on, she’s pretty, she’s got nice legs, beautiful tits, nice thighs, her body is just…Ahhhhh! Her beautiful face, her skin, her hair-oh my goodness she’s fine! I am dying to fuck the shit out of this girl-so much so that it is driving me up a wall. I can’t stop thinking about her! She’d better keep her ass away from me-coming on to me like that or else I’m going to just grab her and take her down to the basement of the building and tear her down…”
…Can you imagine your husband or man saying that to you-with that kind of lust, excitement, and desire for another woman?
I know your answer is “no,” or better yet: “hell no!”
But if you want to keep the passion and desire contained to your relationship (happily ever after); you’ll have to condition yourself to having those kinds of conversations with your man, you know… just like I mentioned in Gem #20 about whether it’s actual cheating or a desire in his mind; the power is in the fact that the greatest fuel in cheating stems from the secrecy involved and is as well (if not-even more); fueled by your emotional response to it, that instead… since you CAN’T BEAT HIM, if you learned to JOIN HIM, you will indeed beat it-and in doing so, that passion and desire for [that or those other women that he felt], will then ricochet back as fuel for your relationship-between the both of you.
THE PASSION EFFECT
As you condition him to share and condition yourself to allow, it kills the fantasy and the passion that fuels cheating. It becomes almost “disgusting” for him to entertain the thought of stepping out on the relationship with another woman, knowing that he and you (on a regular basis) lust and feast on just that thing [that he will no longer feel good about] doing. It blows the fantasy-and interrupts the thoughts that were at one time-a hot, passionate secret.
This willingness to allow him to tell you every detail that he liked/lusted about other women (even if you are not bi-sexual) will anger, and hurt you enough to tears that while making love, turns into a kind of passion that the both of you have never experienced.
It’s explosive! You are conditioning him with a reverse kind of psychology (of sharing) that you too, will be conditioning yourself (to allow).
Although (coming up-as you read on) I will share with you-some extremely hot examples of sexual scenarios; there really are no “premeditated” words that can express what will actually happen-but I do know that it will drive you crazy and bring out the animal in him! Believe me when I tell you…he doesn’t even know that he has been waiting to be able to release in this manner. The two of you will end up having more sex and there will be more passion between the two of you than he ever could have done while cheating.
Enjoy you guys’ lust-fest.
By being willing to share his thoughts and desires, not only are you creating more quality time for you and him, but it will even cut out some of that “me and the guys” time that he tends too.
Men who are committed (married men too) spend about 50% of their “me and the guys” time talking about sports, etc. And typically, that the other 50% is spent talking about things that he dare not talk about near your presence-(and other testosterone-filled things) up to and including all those
