go on with his life. By this time, the only common thread they had was that their parents still had homes facing the back of each other (as were both their bedroom windows).
Okay so, with the Boy’s fiancé away, and the Girl home after graduating college, remember the night when they were talking to one another from out of their bedroom window and the Girl asked to play the Boy in a game of one-on-one? As they met outside in the back yard-right before the game began, the Boy then asked: “What are we playing for?” And the Girl replied: “Your Heart…”
This is such a good analogy of this concept of RPC. Life threw curve-balls between the both of them, and although the Girl knew he was engaged to be married, she still knew that somewhere inside of him, he still loved her and that there was still and iota of a chance to salvage what they had-so she wanted to fight for it.
Visualize your relationship in that same regard.
Regardless if you have a great relationship and there are no curveballs and you just want to ensure that your man’s mind, heart, and physical body never steps out of the relationship, or if time and life has indeed thrown you a curve ball where because of-the passion, romance, and desire is missing [or whatever disconnect there may be] all has gotten to the point where things seem routine and the two of you and you are doing the responsible thing by honoring whatever commitments that together you share; like the Boy and the Girl, if there is any iota of desire left between you two, RPC can indeed salvage it.
Let me proceed to explain.
While the Boy and the Girl were playing the game of one-on-one, do you remember how hard she was playing? The frustration in her face-how badly she wanted to win? Remember how he was dunking, sticking, and moving all over her-scoring and frustrating her more and more (but she kept trying: huffing, puffing, and gasping). She wanted to win really bad…it was like she was playing for her life (and she was).
That scene is a perfect analogy about this RPC relationship exercise.
Instead playing for his “heart” (only), you are playing for his thoughts (too).
The agony that the Girl had (while playing and trying to win the game) can be compared to the sexual angst and frustration you’re feeling while he is “dunking all over you”: [telling you all his thoughts and desires] that, because this kind of sex is not you guys’ norm; it will indeed be a literal sexual culture shock to you.
Use that unfamiliarity you’ll feel as fuel to arouse you in the bedroom.
No one can predict the emotion of the heat of the moment-that would all depend on what’s being said and done between the two of you.
As mentioned before, the awesome thing about this Reverse Psychology Cheating method is that it could run a gamut of emotional sex: From slow, tearful, and emotional for you, through to agonizing and aggressively arousing to you. One moment you may be in the sexual mood to challenge it, another moment-you may be in the mood to submit to it-it will be different every time, because men carry on a variety of thoughts and desires stimulated by different kinds of stimuli and temptation. While he sets the scene for the foreplay and the sex-play, he could be mean about it (to arouse and challenge you), he could over exaggerate (to take you higher), or he could deliver it to you emotionally (to match your tearfully submitting to it).
SIDENOTE MENTION:
If you are going to watch the movie (to freshen your memory) don’t watch it to turn to that scene only, watch it from the very beginning through to that scene (so that you can feel their “history”) because with this method of making love, that “history” is representative of your relationship (regardless your relationship’s own unique history).
To savor the flavor to that point of wanting to play the game for his heart (thoughts), you have to observe the history of the relationship leading up to that scene and equate that to how you and your man have always related…you know-the norm… with other people-in other relationships. Yet this time, by this method, you want to play this part of the game in your relationship for something he’s never shared with any other woman before: his thoughts, desires, lust (for not just you) but for other women too.
This is entire RPC relationship-saving concept is the cocoa cure.
As ideal as we are programmed into thinking that religious faith, love, communication and respect for one another is the key to sustainability and happily ever after, (although those are key ingredients) no one wants to talk about that “other” communication: The part that he keeps to himself (or tells his friend/s).
You cannot ignore it-because it’s a part of him.
No matter how hard it may be for you to accept this one thing as true-that: as one woman, you are not going to be able to fulfill his every thought and desire that, unless he has the outlet to release and share those desires with you, eventually he gets tired of you guys’ routine (Ms. Team 2)…then eventually, he’s looking for another team (whether it’s kept in his head, told to his friends, or it’s acted upon).
The other irony about cheating or stepping outside the relationship is that when a man cheats, he is really only using them for that release and outlet too, and when it’s done, he’s back home or (if he is a serial cheater) he’s back out acting upon his thoughts and desires-and merely looking for another “Team 1”…that is…until YOU capture it-intercept it, and as a result, it all stays home…
UNLEASH THE BEAST
You’ve heard the saying before: “Show Me a Beautiful Woman and I’ll Show You the Man Who(’s) _________________” (fill in the blank):
- Tired of her
- Tired of fucking her
It’s one or the other, but either way-means the same thing.
That saying is not entirely true, but it is basically true.
The “basics” is this:
Like animals, monogamy is not natural (for any of us-men or women).
We have intuitive dominion over animals, therefore, our intuitive natures afford us the ability to discern, and operate “civilly” in order to function as a society.
Instinct (for animals) is what intuition is for us humans.
We are all like animals, but animals have their own “society” like we have our own-but we run our societies differently.
In animal society, there is no conversation, ostracizing, rationalization, and logic-it’s all about survival of the fittest in any and everything up to and including how they all eat, how they all sleep, and how they all live. It’s strictly survival-day in and day out. There’s no relaxation and no “civil” civilization-just procreation, surviving, and maintaining-by all means necessary (and instinctual).
In our society, we have the capacity to make rules that have to be adhered, to and for those that do not follow them-we “cage” them (by institutionalizing them).
In addition to that, we fear shame and being ostracized-animals don’t.
For example, when animals they have sex, they don’t go run off to private quarters-they do the deed right there where they (or anyone else) stands, swims, crawls or rests.
(I won’t go too far into talk of human -vs-animal civilization; I’m going to stick strictly to sex).
Unlike animals, when we have sex we retreat to private quarters, because our society is such that we have intuition, rules, order, structure, and there is a price to pay for [what we have been conditioned to believe] is improper sexual acts that may be frowned upon as deviate: like rape. Animals have sex and procreate (like what human “rape” is). Animals don’t hook up to meet and date like we do-to get to know one another before sex. They just instinctively go for it.
But when we instinctively go for it (have one-night stands with people we don’t know) we keep it a secret, because it is frowned upon in our society.
When we step outside our marriages and cheat-we sneak and do it because it too-is frowned upon in our society.
Anything involving sex, when tend to retreat to as much privacy as we can because although it’s something that we (humans) know we all do, it is looked upon as something private and intimate (no matter if it’s a one-night stand, a relationship of commitment, or casual sex). Our society will not accept us walking down the street and discovering love at first sight then dropping our pants right there in the middle of the street to start having sex. At closest example, if it’s that much “love at first sight” we’ll find a cozy corner with which to act on our (animal) instincts-away from view.
In our civil society, when it comes to sex, women are socialized badly and frowned upon for promiscuous sexual behavior whereas men aren’t, because it is “expected” of men (almost in a way that it is expected that animals have sex indiscriminately).
Physiologically, biologically, and physically speaking, men are indeed “built” differently from
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