people we are just getting to know (whether you dine out or have drinks out) is to GO DUTCH—if you’re a woman and know that by end-date, you will not be dating this guy again.
Going Dutch, is indirect communication for either communicating:
- “We won’t be seeing each other again-here’ half. Alongside that-time spent with you was time spent with me. We’re even.”
- “I’m pretty independent but don’t want to completely take away your chivalrous gesture of paying for the entire date, perhaps we may meet up again.”
…one, or the other. Either way is safe (for both parties).
Unfortunately, the dating game can get pretty expensive for a man—especially considering that even despite all the independent women there are in today’s climate, cross-culture, it’s frowned upon for anything more or less than the man paying for the date—in its entirety. And too (unfortunately), should he dare ask a woman to pay half, he probably won’t get that second date (unless the two of them had a laughing, guard-down time and found they are both kindred in spirit and savings). But other than that, to save face, pride, his reputation; men typically do what (unfortunately) cross cultures, society told them they should do: Pay to play.
For a single man, unless he’s creatively undetectable, the dating game and dine outs can get expensive. These rings around the rosies can often times be thorns to the hearts of men and bleed their pockets dry-leaving society with a sleuth of men (secretly) tired of this costly process—and eventually the female species draining him of expectations as, men, (unfortunately) in order to claim their ‘manhood’ in society, are under a great deal of pressure to do what’s expected of them where dating women is concerned.
I had a boyfriend, with whom I have an extensive history with. I broke up with + away from him-not necessarily from him being
