a good night, some nights, or a good time.
If what you want is more than that, figure out what use to them can YOU be in THEIR world (past fcking and wasting time—especially when you know they are ambitious, on grind and in action).
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck then it is a duck.
But don’t BE such a duck that you know you’re dealing with a swan and still try to play it like a duck (to fit YOUR ‘program’ and plans).
If they are famous (study to see is “power coupling” their thing and m-o). If they are not famous, find out what their occupation is, what their dreams are, and what moves they are making or how far they are in the midst of bringing them into fruition. Check for their ambition in action.
Don’t-know my name such to research me on the Internet and see that I run a blog and write books, draw, paint, invent and am working on trying to get a home décor line out (all things that takes my focus and me-up, down, out, and sooooo much out of my time and money at any given moment or time) yet, try to peck at me and demand my time like all you discovered online about me was that I post inspirational memes and quotes all day for likes and attention. Hell nah. Considering what find (alone) do you think you can step to me like a Netflix and Chill type of chick and I would go for that? That’s earned with me-not a given. Do you think because you’re cute and say all the right things I got time for ongoing talks about the weather and bullsh/t fruitless things (because-out of fear of being thought of as a stalker and because I don’t tell you those things about me yet) you’d rather act like you don’t know?
Initially, we aint never gotta talk about it, and you can act like you don’t know all you want. But don’t BE, or DO like you don’t know. That’s when it’s a problem. Fit in where you get in. (In that order).
That pisses me off-‘cause I know people are information-age nosey. And if you’re NOT information age nosey then you’re not a strategist and don’t do research and therefore-probably wouldn’t be my type anyway. When it comes to personal relationships, I respect nosey research (as necessary preparation) over weird, purposely placed pseudo ‘oblivion’ any day. That sh/t gets weirder by the second.
So famous or not, man or woman-do your research on people (or listen to their conversation well). People may not tell exactly tell you what they do but you can see what a person and actively about or merely talking about in general conversation. Take that and figure out where you can fit into their plans (if they have a/some plans) and THEN…if they don’t, only then should you go for go fitting into their pants. But find out if you’re dealing with that kinda guy or girl, FIRST.
Don’t step into somebody’s ambition with no acumen about yourself. It’s a turn off. It’s okay to stay in your lane. That’s smart. Choose that over over stepping your literal boundaries.
There are ducks.
And then there are swans.
Know the difference.
