out of control [of herself] and is inviting all kinds of problems that she can avoid.
Even if she’s not a “size queen” (and size is not important), a woman still needs to be in control of whether or not to let a man inside of her in the heat of a moment. There are ways to get and give pleasure in intimate moments where a woman suddenly decides she is not ready to do it with him just yet. You’d be surprised at how many of us women will still go on with the moment simply because pants were loosened or down and he was hard and hot yet, she really didn’t want to go all the way but consented anyways.
Long story short, in this particular chapter of the book, we are going to uncover reasons and ways to take control of your intimate moment by offering some gems on just how to avoid getting caught up like such and too, how to avoid being THAT girl getting “survived” with rather than (truly) “relationshipped” with (while he is secretly “relationshopping”).
Your ability to fake an orgasm has NOTHING on a man’s ability to be able to fake an entire relationship. Ask any man-they do it all the time, for YEARS, for life, until………..
So.
- Are you a size queen?
- Do you YOU not have a method and way to get your answer before going so far that-that a man is inside of you before you get your curiosity satisfied?
- How can YOU tell if he is “surviving” while seeking to exhale (or if you indeed are “the one” he sought, found and is truly exhaling and officially settling down with)
Then come on. This gem (#4) ’s for you:
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FEEL LIKE A LADY. DEAL LIKE A MAN: Tips & Secrets on Everything from: Self-Esteem, Friends, Love, Sex, and Men
Gem 4.
To Thy Self Be True
In order to be true to yourself, you have to be clear on the difference in being “hard on yourself” versus “being true to yourself.”
Throughout this book, while writing it, I try to be very clear about differentiating the meanings of things, so that in an effort to identify a problem or issue, the solution will indeed appear-one by which, I totally leave it up to you to see or to hear.
Like for example, as coping mechanisms, often times, we women will latch onto things to justify and use as excuses (from being unprepared to see things that we need to see in order to move past situations that we know in our hearts are just not that into us, or just aren’t working for us). Sort of like how when we are sometimes left “open” at a door that was clearly-absolutely-positively closed in our faces…to cope, we hang on to the excuse of “needing closure.” Or when we are afraid to (and would rather not be alone) we will settle-and justify it as “trying something different…” when it’s clearly something we would never even so much as entertain the thought of considering, otherwise.
For a woman, I’ve found that really being true to your self is like that light at the end of a tunnel that we actually
