like that.
The #1 problem with women and self-esteem when it comes to love, and their dealings with men (and even their attitude and feelings towards other women) is that women have a tendency to go after men (who they know) do not like them, do not like their type (fully) and who otherwise would not go/come for them. They tend to feel like some great sex, a good meal, luck, chance, or even money and gifts and other conveniences will change their minds-baring gifts and gifts of self that he has yet to even earn from you.
Until a man sees you with his heart, mind, and past his eyes, run everything past his nose…Don’t “feed” him so readily.
LIKE THAT LITTLE DEVIL ON YOUR SHOULDER: MEN HAVE “THAT” WOMAN IN THEIR HEADS AND “THAT WOMAN” IN THEIR HEARTS–EVEN IF HE HASN’T MET HER YET. “THAT” IS WHO MEN ARE HOLDING OUT FOR. WOMEN FAIL BECAUSE EVEN WHEN THEY KNOW THEY ARE NOT “THAT WOMAN,” THEY STILL PURSUE / TAKE UP WITH THAT MAN. IF I HAD TO GIVE YOU A VISUAL…IN THE FORM OF A SONG. HAVE AT SAVAGE GARDEN’S “I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You (I Think I Dreamed You Into Life).”
It doesn’t work like that with men. Men survive with women-they do NOT settle with women unless it’s the one he’s already conjured up in his mind and heart. A man’s decision to not be shallow or forfeit his rules won’t necessarily have to do with the sex, cooking or other things she did for him. It will be his own personal decision-based who who he is and what he wants in and for his life. Men survive until they are ready to build. He will eat your good cooking, take your gifts and money, the key to your apartment and car that you so easily gave-all that. But that doesn’t necessarily make you solid with him. Women settle, and may think what they have with a man is “love” because of those things-or other things she’s done that seemingly got his attention finally and made him hang around. Men can survive in [what seems to be a relationship] to a woman about as equally as a woman can fake an orgasm.
That’s their (secret) 1-up.
That’s your/a woman’s (secret) 1-up.
So in a case like this one. It’s like this:
Real women )who love themselves), with healthy self esteem……………………………..keep it movin’—leaving herself open for the next dude who doesn’t mind her weave and not so big bottom or whatever her attributes are.
Real women with healthy self esteem (and NOT desperate) do not hang around waiting to be desired by men who they know will only do nothing but eff up their confidence and swag-by stepping into a courtship with a man who canceled some of her attributes out from the beginning.
Furthermore, real women know that young minded dudes love to sneak a diss in on an otherwise desirable woman—to score himself some points + notches he never got under his belt from her. SHE KNOWS…by way of her, young minded dudes love to sneak a diss in-so as to act like he ‘aint feelin’ her.”
*eyes in head*
So…better luck next time.
(Furthermore…do your homework on that woman you’re interested in courting dudes! For example, where frequently dines is all over the Internet!)
Just a little advice guys (and gals).
