RIHANNA Sends Pizza and Towels For Drenched Fans Unable To Get Under Her ‘Umbrella’ + The Singer Has Curiously Odd Emotional Moment in Dublin- What You Need To Know About BREAKUPS: Are You Finished (Or ‘Kept’)

minding my business and my own heart.

Good luck RiRi <3

 

Update.

Surprisingly, I was (anonymously) asked to elaborate on exactly what I meant-and I will elaborate just a lil’ bit because I’m prepping to take some of my relationship channel 8 subjects and all subject matters of the like, to my Soundcloud podcast (because I’m more fluid in speaking about relationship subject matter than I can finished a blog for—hence why you’ll see a lot of “stay tuned” endings in a few of my blogs.

It’s just too much to write and deserves and audible or visual expression. I can do that in a full book, but a cut off on a blog is different. At any rate, when I record those, they’ll be posted here at OSF and filed/linked online #diaryofangfrank on Twitter.

At any rate, I said what I said about Rihanna because in a relationship, when people break up, it doesn’t necessarily mean they were ‘finished’ with each other despite being broken up any more than a man or woman having left one another doesn’t mean he or she aren’t still “kept” (which I’ll will elaborate on as you read on). You see, sometimes in life, certain situation in our relationships (having happened) are so big or that warrant caution such that that we have to move on. And often times, this ‘moving on’ is egged on by family, friends (and in Chris and Rihanna’s case): By their handlers and YOU people:

Their fans.

Unfortunately, part of being a ‘celebrity’ is cashing in who you were for becoming an image of what the world wants you to be (for them). From there, your “living” becomes for them (rather than your old self).

Unfortunately (with this rich and famous fortune) the people that oversee who you are now/have become, become your “friends.” Those are ‘handlers’–on your payroll.

Unfortunately (for your fame and fortune) the people that happen to oversee you getting paid (in Rihanna and Chris’ case) happens to be YOU people, you “fans.”

Either way (the above mentioned previous two ‘unfortunates’) doesn’t necessarily mean they broke up having been tired of one another with nothing left to be desired.

It doesn’t mean that because Chris went on to have a cute baby and (what seems liked) a happy new relationship with Karrueche, that Rihanna wasn’t the “kept” woman. “Kept” meaning: kept at, and in the heart despite the body, and life having moved on with life. (I will talk more about things like that in my sex/relationships podcasts because people need to know that+ where breakups are concerned, the difference between being finished or forced: finished and ready to leave or forced to leave).

(I’m obsessed with music, and often times there’s a song to match a situation that I am talking about. For that, Deborah Cox and RL’s We Can’t Be Friends is it):

 

 

At any rate. All that I just talked about should give you the gist of what I mean when I said what I said about Rihanna. But I’m gonna leave you with this:

When people breakup, they leave either:

1. With nothing left to be desired (finished-having had all there is to have, and know all there is to know—whether that be mutual or singularly like my friend’s situation)
2. Tumultuously (something happened that warranted caution or something spontaneous happened where a decision had to be made to part).

…number 2 is the trickest one.

Tricky for who? You ask.

Tricky for the person who is to enter your life next

or

Tricky in that it plays tricks on your heart and mind-telling it that because you’ve parted ways, life must go on (and often times we do).

BUT…The 64 thousand dollar question is: When you left/parted ways (especially if it was spontaneous or tumultuous), did you know all there was to know, experience all that you were intent on experiencing with him/her?

As a person entering a relationship with somebody whose single, still, (as you grow to that level) you have to find out just HOW ‘done’ your new love was with the person last left or left out there and gone on with their life (as it seems or you’re told by your new love, they have/are).

You’ve got to find out (about that person last left or left out there in the world somewhere): Was there nothing left to be desired (1) or was it a circumstance (2).

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Keep in mind this thing about the “tumultuous” (2): Often times it’s one sided. The other person in the relationship may really have truly moved on (in mind, heart, and life). It was the tumultuous circumstance will revealed to us that there really was nothing left to be desired anyways! That’s when we find that we were just going through the motions. That’s when that (tumultuous) situation needed to happen because as creatures of habit and lovers of comfort and familiarity; we just didn’t exit strategically, or mutually (or singularly)…so something intervened to force us tumultuously.

But then there’s that OTHER tricky part to number 2:

“I’m not with him/her but yes, he/she is still ‘kept’” (again, ‘’l repeat: something happened that warranted caution or something spontaneous happened where a decision had to be made to part).

So always ask yourself-evaluate your thoughts, your goings on, your having moved on.

And especially, always ask your new partner (when or if you get to that level of intimacy).

Tell me babe:

• Were you finished? (nothing left to be desired)
• Or were you forced? (situation interrupted love and unfinished business about it, with that person)
• If you were forced, was is being forced that had to nudge you to let you know you were finished?

When it comes to a breakup and starting anew, those are the questions you have to ask yourself and of whom you are starting anew.

Until then #diaryofangfrank

Stay tuned.

Never your worry. I fancy myself an ‘intimacist.’ I fiendishly and realistically love love and intimacy and the idea of the whirlwind of a fantasy it could be about as equal to the reality of situation in love.

I’ll take care of you, your heart, and hopefully your situation. <3