- Do not ask a man out for a date (first).
- Do not pay for (or go Dutch) on a dinner date (that you should’ve allowed him to ask you for in the first place). The only reasons you should pay for dinner or go Dutch is if he left his credit card at home, the bill came back and he couldn’t didn’t have enough to cover it all, or if the date and conversation was such that you are positive you do not plan on ever dating or seeing him again. In that particular case, pay for that dinner date with glee, a Coke, and a smile.
- Do not ask for a man to commit exclusively to/or move in with you (first).
- Do not ask for a man’s hand in marriage (ever). That’s his job (and right) to feel like a King who feels ready to profess, protect, and provide for you, just as it is a fantasy for woman to feel like a Queen (for being asked). Raping him with an ultimatum will most probably make you a miserable wife throughout, ‘til the end.
- Do not even ask him on the dance floor first, if you can help it and are sober enough to catch yourself before the music takes hold of your mind and you do so.
Dance alone.
Lure him.
Invite him that way.
Do not ask or summon him.
If while during your seductive dance, you turn your neck slightly opposite his direction, and he gets a glimpse of that beautiful jugular in your neck and by the time you turn ¾ the way back around-he is not hungrily up and in your face; take your dancing shoes and move on across the dance floor. He’s either: gay, misogynistic or narcissistic type, too “shy” (therefore not for you), or he’s simply not that into you. Move on.
- The only time is it ever acceptable to initiate anything “first” is sex, dinner, and yes: dancing (if after you’ve already been having sex, or are rock steady regardless if you are having sex or not).
No matter how shy a man is or may seem; there is some woman in the world that he would initiate all those things for on impulse-out of fear of losing her from his sight and reach forever, and well, if that woman can’t be you, then at what point should you lay your cards on the table, initiate and approach him first?
Never… Period. Dot.
