It must be tough-being on a reality television show where your main “thing” (as your storyline that gives your person “character” on reality show) happens to be something that you hate to have thrown in your face time and time again:
“Your husbands a cheater and sleeps with everyone in Atlanta” [sic].
Well with no real, solid, proof to back up claims like such from fellow frenemies, it would only be right that a woman defend her man and marriage against such claims being thrown at her out of cattiness and with malefic intent (versus coming with proof of such affairs having happened).
So when Cynthia Bailey of the RHOA would make the assertion (on Bravo TV) that she knows her husband Peter isn’t cheating because all things considered: who he is, who she is (reality television stars), she feels with a certain kind of surety that if such a thing should happen, the type of women that would dare sleep with him (knowing he’s marred) are small-minded enough to get the story out there or to her (if he ever did). Because, as per Cynthia, in [these types of women]s small minds; their sleeping with Peter would be a 1-up, or “victory” of sorts.
But when footage of her husband caught with his slip hanging makes its way around the Internet, victory is theirs.
Low and behold, Peter was caught in quite the compromising position: Closeup on a woman in a way that was definitely inappropriate for a married man. Obviously now (with proof of some kind of inappropriateness going on), that left many who watch the show, fans, and others feeling the footage of the tape should have been sufficed in Cynthia finally making a decision to just uproot her home and leave her husband (with whom she shares two daughters).
Well although the footage didn’t summon Peter to a packing and send off just yet, it did force Cynthia into making her rounds to state her case and feelings about it all-having been explained was she saw on the footage [with the word] “inappropriate”–several times via entertainment news magazines and Atlanta’s radio station V103.
Peter took the high + mature road and apologized to his wife and two daughters and explained himself to the extent of what it looks like on the video footage, wasn’t as it seemed. Cynthia, unlike video vixen turned actress Tae Heckard, was lucky in that regard-to have had a happy mature ending to [what Peter claimed was a misinterpretation] of what had been seen.
Well it was certainly no misinterpretation when Detroit basketball star Brandon Jennings took to the pages of social media page and put a kind of APB (all points Bria) out on comedian Eddie Murphy’s daughter-Bria Murphy-(perhaps, after admiring her beauty in the recent video she was in with rapper Wale featuring crooner Usher Raymond released June 9).
Out of nowhere, and much to everyone’s surprise, the ball player took a shot at expressing his interest in the comedian’s daughter while too, (and via-responding to someone else-declaring he was a single man)—as if it wasn’t just a couple weeks prior (on Mother’s Day) he posted (then deleted) a pic of his hand on his girlfriend Tae Heckard’s pregnant belly.
Considering that, that’s where Brandon’s APB put out on the comedian’s daughter all but a laughing matter.
As if Tae Heckard probably shouldn’t have ignored the red flags already at begin-courtship with the wandering ball player, it was just his bouncy and misbehaving ways that lead him to her that 
left singer Teyana Taylor clueless about how (he-Brandon-her then boyfriend) just wound up, boo’d up with who she thought was her friend: (Tae Heckard herself-now left preggers and disregarded all across social media watching her boo chase the affections of another girl he’s currently admiring).
Rewind (here-May 2014-this is what Teyana Taylor had to say about Tae and Brandon):
“Only Brandon and I know the personal things we had going on in our relationships. Like ‘if you want to downplay what we have to build a platform for your current relationship, that’s your business.’ The world knows, I know, Brandon knows, that we were engaged and that was very public…”
“I felt betrayed because of everything we’ve been through on and off for six years…”
“Brandon doesn’t shock me anymore. My issue is not with Brandon, I’m not even upset because I know him. My issue is with Tae [Heckard], that was my friend.”
“I found out on the blogs … I called her and she got defensive … When you’re friends with somebody you’re more hurt and disappointed than angry. At first I said Tae would never do that.”
Brandon replied:
Fast forward.
No word out on what’s happened since all-a-dat (or if Bria even wants to involve herself with a guy capable of such wanderlust and tacky) but we’ll guess time will tell.
If time would have allowed a look into the future to forewarn rapper Future’s baby’s mom (Brittni Mealy) that Future’s comeback was going to turn out like such, things for her probably would be different right about now.
Having skyrocketed to love with Ciara who (after his rumored cheating), gave him a stop and ‘bout a half a mile from heaven dropped Future back down to this cold-cold world, Future then went back to his past.
While the first couple of weeks since Ciara had gone public with her new boo, and Future and baby’s mom appeared to be moving onward and upward, things seems fine.
That was short lived as groupies began sending Brittni “proof” of their times having spent in and with Future.
I guess these girls are just not listening to the rapper when he rapped-promising to ‘look for her in the daytime with a flash light and if she’s honest and promise to stay true they’d be going ‘cross the moon,’ that didn’t necessarily mean he promised to be honest and stay true.
Brittni must have done just that-turned on the lights (of being in the dark) after getting more Future “fan” mail:
What’s A Girl To Do?
My books site is currently under two serves while being rebuilt but…
As a interpersonal/relationship (without the ‘s’) enthusiast, I write books on stuff like such and elaborate there, but the short answer in a blog is this (as an analogy):
All a man needs is a place. A woman needs a “reason.”
Apply that analogy to the entire thinking of men where all women are concerned.
You see, once a woman realizes that a man will even sleep with a woman he doesn’t even like, is annoyed by and can’t even stand to be around, she will STOP chasing, having coniption fits and divorcing her man for simply being “a boy” and acting on “boy” things.
What you have to realize is: ALL MEN…even mature men, have “boy” in them, and that “boy” simply helps the self-esteem of his manhood. Things he does when that “boy” is with/around “girls” doesn’t all the time mean it’s some emotional experience (even when they act on being a “boy” and do drastic things like run off and make a whole babys with a girl or woman).
There is a individual, relative fine line on when a woman should leave her man for doing “boy” things. But she first has to consider:
-what do you actually have WITH that man (outside of sex and shacking up etc.)
-is he “building” with you
-what are you (the woman) actually DOING with him?
…because those are key things that keep a man being a man, even while he’s out soaring out his boyish oats. Those things are natural and although shouldn’t be a “given” (by you), pretty much all you have to fall back on (as a defense, or win in his boyish games and things) is what the two of you actually have, and are really doing (and especially: BUILDING together).
So like I said in the beginning:
All a man needs is a place. A woman needs a “reason.”
Once a man finds that “place” and has a “reason”–you don’t have to worry about the “boyish” things he’s doing.
What “reason” have you given him? Does he even desire a reason WITH YOU? (Or are you letting him waste your mind, your body and your time?).
Who, and what he is and does, doesn’t do and is doing–depends on you, too.
(check back, I will put up a couple excerpts+elab more on this issue #STAYTUNED)
