How Old Is Too Old To Be Divorcing So Late? — BEN AFFLECK & JENNIFER GARNER Rumored Secretly Separated, CHARLIZE THERON Breaks Up With SEAN PENN Less Than A Month After Doting Over Him In An Interview, SOLE & GINUWINE’s Divorce Details Revealed

They seemed perfect together-so much so that alongside their respective successful careers (considering the fact he had been with two Jennifer’s back to back) a right of literal “passage” should be granted the proverbial double-singular name (even before Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s relationship could maturate).

“Bennifer” seemed to have a ring to it that even before the ring was put on it.

“Bennifer” was a household name (whether the “ennifer” in Bennifer belonged to Jennifer Lopez or Jennifer Garner; either way (depending on who talked about Ben Affleck and either Jennifer-the name sorta stayed). Unfortunately, despite the united front Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have put up over the years, reportedly, the relationship is drifting.

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Upon their 10-year anniversary, the couple is being plagued with marriage woes that have been quietly looming over the Gone Girl star. It’s been said that because of Ben’s his workaholism and his “vices,” their marriage is on the rocks.

Rumors had surfaced before that one of those “vices” come in the form of dices (yeah, I know: ox/oxen, syllabus/syllabi and: dice/di—but hell “dices” rhymed tight?).

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Ok so, according to sources, although their rhyme aint exactly done just yet, the fairytale is.

If the whispers are true, after long separations, couples therapy and three kids, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner may be header for a divorce.

The couple have 3 kids together:  Violet, 9, Seraphina, 6, and Samuel, 3 — and according to sources, those three hold the tie that binds Jen, 43, and Ben, 42, and have throughout this.

Their full story will be in an upcoming issue of our friends at US Weekly 🙁

 

 

Over at the Theron-Penn swing of things, the tie that bound them was an engagement and relationship having blossomed over this past year and a half (December 2013).

According to sources, the split happened shortly after their recent Cannes Film Festival trip to the south of France and reportedly, it was Charlize, 39, who broke it off with Penn, 54.

Although they’ve been a couple for 1.5, they’ve known each other for over ten years. That friendship blossomed to a romance which led to a secret engagement in December 2014 were the couple got secretly engaged in Paris—yes, where after a trip this time, it ended.

“You say I’ve been married twice before, but I’ve been married under circumstances where I was less informed than I am today,” Penn said about Theron during an interview just 3 months ago.

“So I wouldn’t even consider it a third marriage, I’d consider it a first marriage on its own terms if I got married again. I mean, I like the tradition. A friend of mine wrote a line, ‘Without tradition, new things die.’ And I don’t want new things to die.”

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(Penn was married to Madonna from 1985 to 1989, Forrest Gump actress “Jenny”-Robin Wright from 1996 to 2010. Those two share two adult children: Dylan and Hopper. Charlize’s exes are Craig Bierko and Stuart Townsend).

During that same interview, Sean noted that he was surprised to be in love with Charlize for many reasons [quote]: “I’m self-proclaimed bad at mathematics but I can do two plus two. Fifty-three years-old plus finally beginning to figure out why you haven’t been happy in a single relationship? It could seem too late. But to run into somebody now who you care about is a much more passionate, deeper, truer and – God! – A much happier feeling. It’s a lot more romantic and a lot more fulfilling to be in a relationship and to think you’re a good person within it [unquote].”

The South-African beauty had wonderful things to say about her fiancé this past April-even more recent than his statements (in March-just 2 months ago)!

She confessed that she was “shocked” to have fallen for Sean stating [quote] “I’m a very, very, very lucky girl. Very lucky. He’s hot [unquote].”

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In a June 2015 issue of another magazine, Theron also mentioned Penn was ‘it’ for her: “Putting aside that he’s my partner, he’s the love of my life. For the first time, I felt that my work was really bleeding into my life and that made it hard.”

Not even that much time has flown by since both of their statements expressing their love for one another had been said and published long enough for the ink to dry–through to the short time since she called it quits on Penn.

 

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Singer Ginuwine (slash) 1/3 of the R&B group TGT is officially a divorcee of his wife of 12 years Sole. The rapper turned vegan (slash), wife and mother of two (slash), business woman (slash) and yoga instructor secretly filed for divorce from Ginuwine, 44, (whose real name is Elgin Lumpkin).

Although the private couple has had rumors swirling around about them for a while now, they managed to keep their private life private through it all-pretty much.

Sole, 41, (whose real name is Tonya Lumpkin) said in the court papers, she and the Differences crooner have been living apart since 2013.

In the contract submitted by Sole, signed by she and Ginuwine (November 2014)- nearly six months before the filing) alimony, their properties and child support issues were agreed upon and worked out-no drama in that department.

Under their Voluntary Separation and Property Settlement Agreement (alimony being paid to either party null and void) in exchange for her signing over her rights to their $1 million dollar marital home in suburban Maryland which sits on four acres of land, Ginuwine agreed to pay Sole $150k lump sum + $3000.00 per month in child support for their two children: Story, 14, and Dream, 12.

Regardless their divorce Ginuwine asserts that he and Sole are still a team.

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“I really don’t want to go into it, but we’re good. We’re friends and we’re good, we’re going to raise our kids separately, and we’re good,” reported a source.

Also in the November 2014 separation contract, regarding their three other homes in Missouri, Ginuwine will get two of those homes and Sole will get one-with the agreement that Ginuwine agreed to forfeit his 25% stake in their Missouri-based business: Spruce LLC-an company that teaches life skills for developmentally challenged persons.

Other than: “Differences have arisen between the parties and they are now and have been separated since October 1, 2013, living separate and apart from one another with the purpose and intent of ending their marriage,” Sole’s filing doesn’t state the exact reason/s, but each have the right to talk publicly about what went wrong in the future

We’ll give you a head start on that.

 

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Married in 2003 in the Cayman Islands and like I said earlier (in the second paragraph) to quote myself: “Although the private couple has had rumors swirling around about them for a while now, they managed to keep their private life private through it all-pretty much.”

 

In November 2014, Ginuwine did take to Instagram to clear up rumors that Sole was taking him for everything (and as you can see as per their agreement on who gets what) what he said in November 2014 was true. And too, he took responsibility in their ending up this way being because of him-not her:

I need to address yesterday’s rumor because it is not totally accurate and I don’t want my wife being made out to be the bad guy here. We are NOT yet divorced, but we ARE currently Ginuwine and SOleseparated and working towards coming to our own agreement, without lawyers, to amicably and fairly divorce. We’ve kept it quiet because it is really no ones business but ours and our family’s. Therefore, reports that she left me “broke” are untrue. She has been a good wife and mother and my poor choices and actions over many years have lead to this.

I am on a path of becoming a better man and part of that is taking responsibility for my own choices and behavior in life, so that’s what I’m doing by releasing this statement. I thank everyone who has been there for us through these trying times. You are appreciated. God bless

Whatever “choices and behavior in life” that contributed to Sole’s decision to divorce Ginuwine, via family and friends, publicly (2009) it was rumored he was seeing actress LisaRaye. Sole’s response to that was this:

“I was like, that’s funny. First of all, I’m not packing up no four kids and disrupting their lives in the middle of the school year, I don’t care what he did. That’s just foolish. But they were reporting this like they had seen me out here packing up my bags. I believed it wasn’t true from the beginning.

My being upset about it was just the fact that it caught me so off guard.”

Lastly, but certainly not least was that July 2014 picture he took of he and Sole’s young daughter Cypress where money was thrown around her and he captioned the pic:

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My daughter just came in should I be asking so questions !????? Man I gotta stay home@more this is getting catastrophic

Sole jumped on to defend her daughter and scold Ginuwine:

“That was NOT my daughters money that @Ginuwine posted.. It was HIS & his sick idea of a joke..Been trying to keep silent but he needs help. I’ve remained silent but my child will not be publicly humiliated by a sick joke by some1 whos judgement is impaired.”

Can’t say that was the straw that broke the camel’s back of the Pony singer’s November 2014 initial divorce proceedings-four months after that July 2014 incident, but after the public backlash that came his way for his joke that didn’t go over too well, to his defense he replied:

“To all the idiots that can’t take a joke I gave my daughter this money and said something stupid that I thought people would be able to take for a joke wow these days you really got to be careful what you say I mean do you actually think I would be calling my daughter anything other than my angel sorry Cycy”

 

They are scheduled to appear in family court to next month (July 2015).

 

As a relationship/intimacy enthusiast I have to say this:

It’s weird.

Why are people [not just having spent soooooooooooo many years together and then getting divorced], but too,  why do people get this old/later in life and then get divorced? I know that sounds like a naive question but…I guess what I am trying to say it: People don’t want to grow old together anymore…It’s weird. Sh|t just must be that unbearable. That’s scary to me.

I loved a couple of people in my lifetime that loving them wasn’t enough to want to still be with them any more-so, I get it. I do.

I, for one, don’t believe in the fairy tale of “love conquering all.” But I DO believe in life conquering all. That being said, as much as I believe in love, I wouldn’t marry for “love” first. I would marry for business first-because we were “in love,” second. I don’t know, but there is some part of me that thinks that in that order of things (where love and life is concerned), the “investment” of the business of the relationship would carry such weight that two people would look at each other and say, “Oh hell no. I spent 10+ years with you. Cop a squad at another side of the house or build a cul de sac around here somewhere but WE aint going NOWHERE! I gotta take care of you or you me, or we gotta take care of each other as we get older. Be prepared to wipe my butt. Go sit down somewhere.”

Maybe I’m a dreamer too much in that regard.