It goes without saying that there will be another like “I’m The Only Woman You Need” singer Mary J. Blige and too-the same goes for any attempt (or chance) of replacing her in her personal life too.
The Queen of Hip Hop Soul recently sat down with U.K.’s Stella Magazine and while interviewing-the subject of relationships came into play, and this is what our girl Mary had to say [about the rules in her humble abode]:
Mary J. Blige : “All females for me, all guys for him. There’s none of that, ‘Oh, that’s my female friend. Oh, that’s my guy friend.’ No, not in a marriage, I’ve never seen that work.”
Amen! fell back laughing
“On paper” (initially)…it sounds so silly.
But sometimes those “silly” little rules, routines, rituals etc. are what works. 
I’m a naturalist.
And I’m a person who naturally thinks about when someone is telling me some method or ‘way’ of doing (or feeling) a thing—if I can match it to nature (especially), or if something naturally gives me a “visual” –that too (in my head) displays a metaphor for your reasoning or thing that you are trying to convince me of-or about a ‘way’ of doing or feeling a thing; then I’m either all for it, with you, accept it (or will consider it).
With regard [her] statement: “All females for me, all guys for him. There’s none of that, ‘Oh, that’s my female friend. Oh, that’s my guy friend.’ No, not in a marriage, I’ve never seen that work.”
Immediately…and I do mean immediately…what popped in my head is like: junk food vs. fruits and vegetables, and being sedentary vs. active.
We all know the “end result” of what junk food + a sedentary lifestyle vs. an active lifestyle and fruits and vegetables can be, right?
So…immediately, that’s what popped in my head.
You see.
In a personal relationship (marriage or otherwise committed), the key word here is: “relationship”—a personal one.
In a marriage, (in my opinion) it’s not very necessary that either a wife or a husband have a “friend” of the opposite sex [as a ‘friend’]—especially when what you married or committed to, (hopefully) you’ve already built one, anyways. I mean, that’s the goal right? (…in a partnership).
Expecting to be healthy from a sedentary lifestyle and junk food [versus an active one and healthy food] is something we all can vouch for “never seeing work.”
So in that regard, I get that-what’s she’s saying.
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