shot dead. Now, all the while-during the first hour and a half of the movie the two hour movie-we never met Kahlil or heard nothing about him enough to even care—care that Tupac should’ve taken it out on “Justice” and faulted their day long drive and excursion and hooking up with her as being what could’ve prevented Kahlil from being shot (had he arrived there sooner).
All condolences due to the movie’s “Lucky” about his cousin Kahlil, but the reality was: “Fool we didn’t know him!” That said, we all tilted our head to the side as we mustered up the empathy about cousin Kahlil on the strength of our love of “Lucky” for the whole hour and a half.
The same was true for Christina reality show display of emotion about Lil’ Wayne. Although we felt her (maybe), she’s always felt alone in this (to us all).
That said, it was a rather odd, “Kahlil” moment (unfortunately and unlucky for her).
Fast forward, here we are a couple weeks later, somewhere in between this social public announcement of a breakup (after yesterday/Thanksgiving where Lil’ Wayne spent the holiday with his girlfriend Dhea, his mom and grandma), Christina took to her social media account to expressed and suggested an unnamed person stop telling her he loved her and come see him [if it was over].
It took for another random chick on social media to dismiss Chris as the sidechick which then, forced her to pretty much admit it was about Lil’ Wayne.
The important thing to take from this is the nature vs. nurture effect that even men themselves sometimes don’t understand: What they say (versus what their nature responds to) is often times two different things. (I explain that in detail here in Gem #19 in my unpublished book Feel Like A Lady, Deal Like a Man).
Quite frankly, all these years, we still don’t ‘know’ Dhea. Alls we know is that he knows Dhea ‘like that.’ All we knew was that he knew Christina ‘like music.’ So, it’s like the chick said: you were the ‘side bitch’ (who happened to take center stage because of the music). Like pimps to thier h0s: Most male music ‘mentors’ get in their bodies and in theirs heads to control ’em and make ’em work under the guise (and hope) that something ‘special’ is there. Same thing. Men have tiers.
Alongside that, what’s important for women to know about a man is, when it comes to what he’s saying, doing and not doing; men say lots of things e.g “come over,” “come see me” and even “I love you.”
But what a man says versus what he does (and not doing) are three different animals.
Men are demonstrative by nature (when they’re interested/interested in conquering or building a thing). So in the land of those three (doing, saying and not doing) more often than not, women have to play the process of elimination and rule out what he says (that sounds comforting to her head and heart) and pay more attention to what he does and is not doing and being demonstrative in (for her head and her heart) and know that there is a difference between
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