Soooo pettiness was the name of the game all across social media-a game that remained in favor of actor Johnny Depp-leaving a his (now) ex wife Amber Heard looking like a some broad who, when all was said and done, was just another woman after a rich man’s money.
Given his reclusive nature since he was a young Hollywood actor even as far back as 20 years ago, when the handsome 21 Jumpstreet lad was painting Tinseltown red with gossip circulating about his tumultuous breakup of he and his estranged wife, people took notice and kept nosey.
Unfortunately however, by the time his legions of female fans and fellas already inundated with Depp family accounts stating Heard was merely after Depp’s money, Amber was left out there looking like the typical woman looking for a payoff post the Hollywood divorce norm: “irreconcilable differences.”
The tables (somewhat) turned however, when Amber delivered proof of what she had been claiming: That the quiet, mild mannered recluse we all knew of (on the outside), was really the raging, ticking time bomb she claimed he was-alleging he had physically abused her on several occasions up to and including around this May 21 day when she stepped out in public with a healing meatball on her cheek.
Fast forward.
Viola!
In early August, Heard produced video tape evidence of Depp cursing like one of the pirates he’s played in his time-while swinging his arms reminiscent of his Edward Scissorhand days.
Although the tape was grainy, it was clear that the moment was indeed grimy—showing Depp in the depths of light darkness that none of us has ever seen the reclusive actor in, with the bottom line as clear as his drunkenness and obviously having knocked back a few and bottom’d up: Amber may have been right, there was evidence of definite verbal abuse—and no reason to rule out her claims that physical abuse reared its ugly head a time or two, or three during their brief, 15 month nuptials.
Fast forward-the moment all of Hollywood was waiting on: D-day:
Divorce proceedings and the delivery of the duckets (the world claimed Amber was after anyways).
Low and behold however, something unexpected happened: Instead of riding off into the depths of the sunset with Depps chaper, Heard pretty much had this to say: ‘I don’t want it. Rather than that blood money hitting my pockets, that seven million dollar settlement would be better and served and spent on a battered women’s shelter or 2 charities championing abused women.’
Scurrrrrrrrr. That threw egg on everybody’s face (who patiently waited on this accused gold digging nobody of a woman to take the money and run).
Now I won’t belabor the obvious: recent reports stating Tesla owner Elon Musk has been chasing the sweet nectar of Amber and pulling at her skirt tail for about three years now with rumors circulating that that is who she’s been hanging out with these days.
With that being the rumor (or the fact) one would speculate that the eagerness of a billionaire whose been pulling at you for three years now would be go and ready to spend lots of time and plenty of money right about now-especially now that you are a free and unmarried woman.
Regardless of all that, true or not, it’s something to be said and quite the lesson for all women to learn here: All money aint good money All money aint worth the money….and circulates like the sweat, tears and blood from whence it came. And when it comes to a man, all women have to know that this life and the way society is set up, teaches them all that the 3 most important and valuable things in life are about as attached to him that of a finger:
- His money
- His peen
and
- His Pride
When a man’s pride is stepped on-out comes the scorn. When it’s lifted: his prowess.
Money is emotion and a man has two uses with it: As an extension of the love he feels or as a reflection and extension of himself-what he wants to be said of or about him.
But in such case like such, when a woman has enough pride (herself) to simply walk away from it all, that speaks volumes: to him and for her (and in this case in particular: to the world).
Regardless of the inner workings, truths or untruths about what did or didn’t happen within the closed quarters of their home, she did real good to not take one dime and leave it all behind. That rids her of emotion behind the money and enables her to leave with her very own dignity in check-without the scorn of the world (or him) with the ‘right’ to have an opinion about any dollar she would have peeled off of the stacks she very well could have made off with.
That all said. In regular life, whether the “tool” behind the breakup be emotion (or money-which again, is emotion nonetheless) rather than holed up in the corner and fatalistically sitting in the emotion:
…Or vengefully prolonging the emotion:
…Or burning the emotion to ashes:
The end result (for self) and effect (felt) is much greater when you have enough pride to simply walk away.
On a (somewhat) lighter note, (for the record) as this saga drags out, it’s important to note that having walked away, it’s evident and clear that the emotion is on him now as, rather than (the plan) for her to have just handed the $7 million in full over to her two charities of choice; he took it upon himself to hand it over to two charities of his choice (which means that come tax time-the money pretty much comes right back to him).
Clever.
And although it seems petty-that Heard and her lawyers are insisting that if Depp chooses to handle it that way-perhaps the settlement should be $14 million (rather than the 7), then that way (down to the penny with no tax kickbacks) the full $7 million dollar judgment will be honored (and still be handed over to the two charities of her choice as planned) And still, she walks away.
That’s merely pride and principle-not gold digging.
So what can women learn from this?
That rather than running off with our emotions,
….(or with the emotion behind the money)
…it’s okay (and better sometimes) to just have the cigarette— but walk away.
…Because regardless whether or not the pendulum swings your way or his; when you take on a man’s
- pride
- peen
and/or his
- paper
…there’s a price to pay for all of that. If you don’t want ‘him’ to come with that, or if he feels about you less than you desire, then don’t take none of that.
Period. Dot.
P.S. Yeah I know if she gives the money to charity she’s gets a tax kickback. But that’s the government “paying” her. His money went to charity. She now: not his, (or the world’s) charity case.
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