from him willingly (without a flinch or a literal blink or 
attitude). Nothing will change your life more than to desire either one of those things in those four bullet points from the man you love (that claims to love and care for you) and not be able to get it. But (well over finding texts to other women to “damaging” you)………………………………….listen to, or watch him do it for another girl…
*sucks teeth and stares at you
…it’ll change your life and put you on your p’s and q’s when it comes to dealing with men…
All that said explained, the down side to those women in his phone is that ONE woman can get it all from him.
The 64,000 question is: Is it you?
So in your daily: girlfriend, fiancé, or wifely duties of being just that: The main girl, wifey-to-be, or the wife), while you CAN’T control his day-to-day “blinks,” YOUR only job (that you CAN control)…is to make sure you haven’t (one-sidedly) given of yourself such that he is not afraid to lose you or that he is NOT slacking on his “pimpin’” in those four bulleted points when it comes to YOU.
If a man isn’t afraid to lose you and be without you, you’ve already lost.
If he’s blinking PLUS slacking (in ANY of those bulleted areas just the same)…cancel his a$$-move on while you’re still “pretty.” That’s the trade-off for accepting the “blinks” that come natural to his malehood. Even if a man is not building with you (i.e preparing to love you for life), if he is willing giving of those [aforementioned bullet points], he at least likes or loves you well over being at the lower end of his “tiers.”
But as a single woman, if he’s slacking with you (deprives you of any of those things in the bullet points) drop him right he stands and don’t shed a tear or look back, because it will get no better. That’s your warning sign-because remember: MEN ARE “BUSY.”
When it comes to women, how they treat them and what they are willing to sacrifice or share with them, the process of elimination is already waiting for you at the door.
If for some reason a man you are in a relationship with won’t oblige you with what’s in those bullet points-there is a reason-again… and keep in mind (again), there is a woman out here (or in his phone list) that he is willing to share those things with willingly and with love and glee.
BUT…
If, in those four bulleted areas he is NOT slacking, LET THAT MAN “BLINK” and stay out of his phone and voicemail please and thank you)! You’ll thank me later!
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