While making her rounds for her upcoming movie BarberShop 3 in theatres April 15, the rap star and actress raptress Nicki Minaj stopped by Ellen Degeneres to talk about the movie. Well obviously, with Minaj’s relationship with rapper Meek Mill having been on display like it was (since her previous one), Degeneres would be remised if she didn’t mention Meek.
Unfortunately, out of the interview, what’s circulating the most is Nicki’s statement [that] “some boy” [gave her a ring, and another] rather than referencing Meek Mill by name of referring to him as her boyfriend or fiancé and too, referencing her saying:
“Ya know, I don’t know. We’re still figuring each other out. And in fact, I don’t even want to say that I’m in a relationship anymore because I think when people hear that they go to like the mean place and try to be like… / I used to say I’m not in a relationship even though I was in a 12 year relationship and I just want to go back to that because it’s better to just keep those things sacred. So now I don’t really care to say I’m in a relationship or I’m engaged or whatever, but there’s a boy that likes me. That’s it.”
Also however, [although many reporting it without mentioning Nicki threw it all in the bag and decided to literally ‘have’ her relationship-without sharing it with the world-like I swear by being the best thing], Nicki stated that on Valentines Day despite the fact that in her real world life, she spent it with Meek all day-and he gave her many Valentines Day gifts. Yet, when she logged on line, she logged online to speculation that they weren’t together-if ever, perhaps.
That’s the perils of putting [relationships or even accomplishment] out online to social media. It’s a devil’s playground for the idol at time and mind + suppositions-a-plenty.
If there’s one social media rule to protect your brand (and sanity) it is:
Feed (sparingly), and definitely don’t be fed. (Definitely don’t be feed meaning: feeling the need to put accomplishments and feats out to share with strangers who don’t even know you. For, eventually, your validation, self-esteem and highs will eventually be led by doing it. And all your ‘worth’ outside of putting outside of it will roll in reverse with the need to be validated only by doing so-the only thing that gets you ‘high’ and inspired. I see it all the time. Your inspiration becomes fueled by validation.
You can’t feed off and get full from the people of social media, for they only stay full for the length of time it takes for you to burp-after that, it’s on to the next delicacy and meal.
As well, when you feed them too much and skip a meal, the person they feel is starved or without is you.
The thing about hype online/social media is that, it epitomizes the word “hype” in the truest sense of the word as, “social media” is a meeting place of circulating words and stories and well…with nobody’s body present, no one has to be accountable for the hype they feed into for gain, boredom or even if truly felt. Since you are human, that in turn, does (unnatural) things to your mind, your heart and eventually-your REAL life (unless, like Nicki) you pull back from [the need to] do that.
If who you are, what you have or do is real (and true), there are no ongoing (or occasional) attention-seeking drops or antics to prove to a world of people who does not even know (or have to be made accountable) for caring about your relationship or your accomplishments.
Kudos for Nicki.
There’s continuity in contentment + knowing fully who you are, (what, or who you have you have) and being just that—for you.