Shooting a movie all night, flying to Vegas to perform tmrw, flying right back out to shoot a vid the following day, then right back on set.
— NICKI MINAJ (@NICKIMINAJ) May 30, 2015
With her current situation being such that she’s thrown herself right back into work (on a new movie) just off a world tour after having completed her anticipated CD Pink Print, somewhere in there, Nicki Minaj took to the cover of Cosmopolitan Magazine and did what the Cosmo girl does: Speak candidly about subjects of sex, family, work, and all things of concern to the modern woman today.
In the upcoming July issue, Nicki certainly barred none regarding discussing money and pay for your worth being commensurate with [your worth], recording the Pink Print album after her breakup with her long-time boyfriend Safaree Samuels, demanding an orgasm during sex, and where she sees herself in 10 years.
Over many mags, considering its m.o., Cosmopolitan does (and always has) fancied itself a magazine for the modern woman so (in accordance with their brand/personality) they tend to ask their celeb feature and cover girls the most provocative, candid questions they believe may be of interest to the modern woman and these [questions] were pretty good and of interest and concern to a lot of modern women.
As a relationship enthusiast , (as you may well know), while blogging or doing a write-up, when a subject arises that is of concern to my site reader demographic in conjunction with what I write/speak on, research, or have experience on/with (like this one about pursuing men inspired by Kim Kardashian’s reveal that she pursued Kanye) — then I do take the time out to interject it in a blog or write up (just like I do whenever I write a blog and I have something to say about the celeb/subject-nonetheless).
So since there were only a few questions from Nick’s Cosmo interview published digitally, let’s run by Nicki’s Q&A and chime in:
On being open about discussing money:
“Women are uncomfortable talking about money. I know it’s taboo to discuss it at work. Technically, you shouldn’t, but you need to know what people around you are making. Otherwise, you’re not going to know what you’re worth. You have to ask questions. ‘What is this person getting?’ Do your research. I’ve always been pretty competitive in terms of my pay.”
Obviously whether you have a career versus a “job,” multiplied by whether or not you are “educated” versus not having a college degree divided by whether you have [the] experience (or not) are all things to consider when discussing monies paid being commensurate with your work or worth which too (whether career or job), can definitely be negotiated by the value you bring.
Whether it be in relationship (love, friendship etc.) or work, we always have to remember two things (when we toss the “worth”/ “my worth” word around):
“Worth” is our/your own personal concern.
“Value” is to whom we are concerned’s concern-contingent upon the value they feel you bring to it, them, the company, the career, or the job [by comparison to who/whatever aside from you].
When considering our worth that we feel (or know) we have, measure it by the value you add to it.
No matter what (personal or business), “worth” is only 50% of the pie.
When you add “value” to your worth-that relationship, job, or career is yours to negotiate however you wish.
So yeah, know your worth, but add your value (by comparison to what someone or something can add/replace you with).
To reiterate, remember: “Worth” is your business and concern. Your value is the beholder’s concern. What value do you add? That is the area that should be your concern (in relationship/work/life etc).
In a nutshell, value is determined by what you bring/add over, separate, incomparible, irrepleaceable that the next [candidate or person].
At any rate, check out this hilarious video by our friends at BuzzFeed:
We did a blog on job as career women asking for equal pay. Click here for that ladies. There are some useful tools to get you off to a great. negotiating start!
On where she sees herself in 10 years:
“Ten years from now, I will have two children, unless my husband wants three. I will be into my fitness a lot more, I will stop yo-yo dieting, and I’ll be a housewife with careers that I can run from home. I want to be able to cook for my children, bake cookies for them, and watch them grow up. I just want to be Mommy. Take them to school, go to the parent-teacher conference, help them with their homework, and put their work on the refrigerator.”
I thought that was so cute and idealistically “Stepford” wife-ish 🙂
On recording The Pinkprint after a tough breakup with Safaree Samuels:
“I didn’t [set out] to write a personal album, but The Pinkprint came at a very crucial time in my life. I realized that people can up and take off at any given moment. As women, we are vulnerable and emotional, and that’s OK. I had to learn quickly that if you don’t have a sense of self, you can be destroyed by a man. You can be destroyed by a relationship. I had to ask myself, ‘Who am I? Is this good enough?’ I had to approve of myself and my skills.”
On being high-maintenance in bed:
“I demand that I climax. I think women should demand that. I have a friend who’s never had an orgasm in her life. In her life! That hurts my heart. It’s cuckoo to me. We always have orgasm interventions where we, like, show her how to do stuff. We’ll straddle each other, saying, ‘You gotta get on him like that and do it like this.’ She says she’s a pleaser. “I’m a pleaser, but it’s fifty-fifty.”